What are resolutions anyway? It is the process of resolving a problem. But what if you don’t have a problem? Just kidding…

Actually, I say if your resolutions are to lose weight, quit smoking, get organized, or spend less, you are doomed to fail (shy 8% – which is the statistic of those who actually succeed in their resolution) The other 71% of us make it through week 2 before giving up entirely.


Why? That sounds so negative! Where is the inspiration I usually post?


There is NOTHING wrong with you! God made you who you are.

new-years-resolution-appleIf you want to lose weight, do it because YOU want to, not because you NEED to or because someone else says you should or the magazines TELL you to.

If you WANT to quit smoking, really want it – then you will succeed. But if you are just saying it, you are just wasting your breath making a resolution to change your problem that you really have no true intention on changing. Smoking is HARD to quit, most of us are just trying to make it through the day. Resolve to smoke less, it’s easier than quitting, something you can accept and possibly something that will make you happier… and if it leads to quitting, it’s a step further than you planned and something to throw a party over!

If those shoes make you happy… then budget a little happiness in. Just try to be more responsible in your spending by recycling to resale those shoes you haven’t worn in years to circumvent the added expense.

Plan for happiness by not resolving to failures.

I say – don’t resolve to solve a problem, be resolute – which is: possessing determination and purposefulness.  What is your purpose in life? Then… do it better.  Be a better wife/husband, mother/father, friend, colleague. Listen more. Pray more. Try harder.

Be a better you.

When you desire to be a better you, you are choosing to do something you want. You are allowing yourself failures, which is a given for ANY human being, which is not necessarily a bad thing, because you grow each time you learn something new. You are opening yourself to successes because you will be proud of yourself and open to happiness because you smile more and scold yourself less.

So this year, don’t make a resolution to which you know subconsciously that you are going to fail at. Be resolute in the knowledge that you are going to be a better human being which in turn will make the world a better place, one person at a time.

That’s my take on it.